Parents are somebody's kids too

The story of Ryan, Linda and Rob Robertson is another example of how religion and customs can make a life miserable.

Parenting is not an easy task. Being in charge of another human being is a great responsibility, and one that should be taken seriously.

Parents are also people, somebody's kids.  Parents, as any person, drag through out their life experiences from childhood, ideas and expectations, and all that might translate in conflicts with their brand new families.

Some parents fight the idea of becoming their own parents, some others struggle to be exactly as their parents, ignoring that each social group or family has their own identity.

It is necessary to adapt the parenting skills to the individuals being parented.  One size does not fits all.

Parents who need to deal with juvenile delinquency,  drugs, academic failure, and many other behavioral problems with their children, need to know that no one have a guaranteed solution for their problems. Therapists try theories that might work or not, the judicial system focus on punishment, so it is just through real love that we can help our loved one to find their way.

Parents don't need to know it all. People come to the world to experience different situations.  Just look around and see how different people live and everyone was born from a mother and a father.  People in prison, people in universities, people in satellites in outer space, people farming, people in Wall Street.  Why so many different types of lives? Because humans are unique. We have free-will. We have God's given freedom to develop, to evolve at our own pace.

Expectations cause us to become disappointed. Most people cannot live up to our expectations and we just move on, but when those "most" people are our children a sense of entitlement push us to force them to do our way.  Sometimes it works. Sometimes won't.

Parents who have tried their best to guide and even "correct" their children out of love and good intentions, should never feel guilty or have regrets for the outcome.  As we said before, we have free-will and ultimately our children will make their own decisions, no matter what.

We are all souls going through a learning process, nobody knows the absolute truth, it might not even exist absolutes in the Universe.  Jesus teachings are very specific regarding to how we should treat our neighbor, our enemy, and to those who offended us. Forgive and love all those around you as you love yourself.

Click on the link to read the story that inspired me to write this post.
http://justbecausehebreathes.com/

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Another f..ing war

Another f...ing war. As long as some people make money selling stuff and services during wars, it will never end.  It is like beer and baseball or football or any other stupid event where people need to get drunk to enjoy it.

Apparently the site of predilection to bomb in the last few decades is the middle east.  America was asked in the 90's to protect Kuwait from Hussein's Iraq, that was fine.  We went in and out. Made Hussein to retrieve and secure the oil, as protecting the cow that our little kids need to milk to survive. That is also fine with me. The black gold.  We need it, so we take it.

But some genius in one of these companies, let's say Halliburton, had the great idea to design war plans with certain characteristics.

First - As far as possible from America because.....

a)  Out of sight out of mind.  The American people do not engage in international news, it is hard to follow something that you do not relate to it. and b)  The farthest the better.  Less control and transportation high costs might be justified.

Second - a) Let's bomb a group that we "all" seem to hate, because they hate us, first. b)  Societies who doesn't share our "American way of Life", Those where women are treated as second class citizens, where they cannot drive or go shopping.

Third - Let's sell this idea that we do wars out there so we have not to fight right here, but the truth is that we have become a society of suspects, where the government listen to phone conversations without the slight reason, where we are all suspicious if you travel overseas or family come to visit you from a black listed country.

There was a student from Afghanistan that had a GPS installed on his car for months, reporting every move he did and every place  he visited, just because he would call his parents in Kabul, the paranoia is out of control and taxpayers pick up the tab.

So, yeah, let's go into another fu..ing war, as I said, but let's be honest about it.  It is a business.  It is a good, profitable business.  It is food stamps for the arms dealers, just take a look to The 10 largest arms producing and military services.

We  need leaders that are not afraid to talk about peace, to talk about alternative ways for conflict resolution.  We do not take seriously enough people like Dennis Kucinich because maybe we feel comfortable with the bad and not so much with the different.  Take a moment and read what Kucinich has to say, and then think about it .  Isis, Libya, NATO and preventing the next 9/11

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